30 DAY NO EMASCULATION CHALLENGE

For women who are ready to put down their defenses and let in the love they’ve always wanted

“I give up the right to castrate men for the next 30 days.”

This challenge is based off of the above vow that is made and encouraged in The Queen’s Code by Alison A. Armstrong. Actually, she ends hers with the word “forever,” but I decided to make this 30 days so you can really understand why you would ever commit to such thing.

How do women “castrate” or “emasculate” men? They:

  • Assume insincerity

  • Don’t trust them

  • Don’t need them for anything important or allow them to help

  • Act disinterested in their passions

  • Complain

  • Compare them to others

  • Become impatient with them

  • Belittle them

  • Withhold appreciation

  • Withhold admiration

  • Withhold sex

  • Shut down their storytelling or jokes

  • Criticize them

  • Interrupt them

  • Roll eyes or scoff at them

  • Take over something they gave them to do

  • Demean their earning abilities

  • Demean their virility

Why give it up?

“Men and women are going to both be powerful, or both be weak. That is how it works… Emasculation leaves you both disempowered.” - The Queen’s Code

Men and women have been struggling to understand and coexist with each other since the beginning of time. As a result, I hear SO many women say things like “there are no good men out there.”

So…could that actually be true?

Or is it possible that we are just seeing what we already believe?

The stories that we have about the world shape our experience in it. And our relationships with men are no different.

And, just like women, men are reacting to the way they are perceived and treated. So if we treated them like they already are the providers, lovers, caregivers, and kings that we want them to be, is it possible that they would act that way too?

My assertion, and that of The Queen’s Code, is YES! They would. But if you don’t believe me, the only way to really find out is to try the experiment ◡̈ .

Why am I running this?

I WAS “miss independent, don’t-need-no-man, yet really, REALLY want a man at the same time” girly. And this wasn’t just in romantic relationships — I played out this pattern with my father, my brothers, my friends, even my coworkers and acquaintances.

All I really wanted was to have meaningful, intimate, loving relationships with the men in my life. Yet MY beliefs and behavior were getting in the way.

From 2021-2023, I dove DEEP into masculinity and exclusively coached men. I met with male clients daily and hosted monthly gatherings where men came to talk about their struggles, their passions, and their desires. I was coaching them yet, I learned SO much in that time.

And the recurring theme was: men want to cherish women as much as we want them to. But we often can’t see it, or aren’t willing to.

With the help of my coaches and mentors (and this book!!) I excavated all of my disempowering beliefs and behaviors around men, healed my relationship to them, and, soon after, called in the most amazing man. My life partner is the ultimate provider (in ALL of the ways) - the firm but gentle, loving, divine masculine presence that I didn’t even know was possible (because of MY sh*t, not because it’s not out there!).

What’s more, I now have relationships like this across the board - my friends, my family, my acquaintances - men WANT to show up for me. And I finally know how to let them.

So for the last two years, I’ve shifted my focus back to women so that I can help them do the same - let down their defenses, and create the abundance of love that they’ve always wanted.

The Details

Who is this for?

All women - partnered or single - who want to improve their relationships with men.

I promise, if you commit, this will change how all men - from romantic partners, to family members, to coworkers, to strangers at the grocery store - respond to and show up for you, for the better.

What does it involve?

Learning how you already emasculate men, the impacts of doing so, and why you no longer would.

Giving it up! Apologizing when you accidentally do it. And not beating yourself up over it.

Challenging yourself to embrace new ideas and behaviors that could change your life.

Why do it with the group?

You’ll receive helpful emails and social media content from me and (if you choose) added support from me and the other women in the WhatsApp group. We will share challenges, insights, and changes in our lives. Everything is better in community!

What do I need to sign up?

An open heart, a desire to learn, and a willingness to explore ideas that may counter what you already believe.

Optional: buying the book to read the first 130 pages with us (4.3 pages per day. Though I bet you eat it up way faster than that!)